April 20, 2010, 6:03 am
Filed under: insight

Is not being around close friends making me a bad friend?

Abnormal unsolicited worrisome talking point of the day.

Is there any real point in placing an extremely high value on friendship?

Promiscuity in friendship is interesting, though disheartening. Like romance, friendship is fetishized in television and movies. How many people have the kind of fiercely loyal bonds we aspire to? How many of those bonds can be sustained? Would we want more if we could?

Popularity and having a lot of friends, not so much the same. Popularity means being well liked. It’s very possible to be popular with few friends, the inverse is also true.

Groups, community, and friends, are also different. Communities are fertile grounds for friendship: common interests, proximity, propinquity. Groups make friendships more sustainable by smoothing the rough parts in specific relationships via commitment to the general group. More glue.

Thinking about friends. Is who we retain somewhat random? Are those who have more opportunity to make new friends, not unlike the opportunity to date new people, more likely to do just that, sometimes electing to end other relationships?


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